Sunday, January 23, 2011

Long Update

Get comfortable: six month update on Ivy, weekend trips, holidays, UT, friends, family.

A week after Ivy was born we found out that I had melanoma (skin cancer). The next three months were the most difficult of our life, to say the least. We went through radiation and two surgeries and a lot of waiting to find out the results. It was difficult to talk about things like life expectancy, wills, and watch other melanoma patients in the waiting room making scrapbooks for their families. A lot of miracles happened. Mostly in how we found the melanoma, Gabe's connections at the hospital to the melanoma oncology department, our ward's help through it all, and a final result of clear/negative nodes. Can't thank everyone enough for the support- wish I had gotten a picture of everyone that helped.

Dr. Goodman. Removed a mole, as a favor, during the c-section.
Gabe's friend at work and the director of melanoma oncology, Dr. McCarron. He gave us his cell phone number to call in case we got online and were self-diagnosing ourselves. He was tall, happy, calm and compassionate. Nurse Sandy was a 24/7 contact and positive support.
After the radiation treatment. Surprised I'm smiling in the picture, it was really painful. Josh, the nuclear med tech, was asked to be his friend's child's god father just that morning. He talked about how expensive that would be for him and he wondered if he should say no. God fathers apparently don't give cheap gifts here. It was a nice distracting conversation.
Gabe and I sat and waited for surgery for a few hours together. We haven't sat and talked and laughed like that for a long time. I was laughing so hard the nurse came and asked if we were fine. It was a nervous hyper feeling.
I wasn't able to walk (from the c-section and the two surgeries in two places) for almost a month. This was our bedtime story routine, at the foot of my bed. It was at this moment I felt like our kids would be fine if the diagnosis wasn't in our favor, with Gabe loving them the way he does.
Elle and Seb soon figured out that I could only give orders from bed, but not follow-through with anything. They were running wild. And really wishing things were back to normal.
Hartricks came to visit from New York. We have missed them, and Port and Little Neck.
Neighbors. Mary Ellen changed my sheets for me a few times. Marion played with Elle and Seb.
The Biffls came up. John played Elle's violin for everyone.
Michelle saved the day, several times.

Chiq and Sarah were life-savers.
Mary came to the rescue many times.

Mary said this is how cowboys eat. She made them do it.
Susan Allred. Eleanor has never had so much fun dressing up.
The Townes. Brother Towne fixed my bathroom light, a chore Gabe just couldn't get to with working and school and being mom and dad.

Few people are as fun as Kristi Birch. It's always so fun with her around.
Our favorite neighbor. She came over one morning on her way out and said, "I have five minutes. What do you need?" She poured everyone a bowl of cereal, changed Ivy's diaper and took the recyling out. Made my whole morning.
Rob McKay. Entertained Elle and Seb one night. Just what we needed- some comic relief.
Paloma drove me to my appointments when I couldn't drive yet. Elle and Seb made TerriLyn pretend she was going in for surgery. Seb told her to take her barium and Elle set her up for an x-ray in the playroom.
I still get weepy when I think of DaShelle sitting with my kids teaching them songs one whole afternoon. I could hear them singing downstairs from my bed.
Aldi and Taylor pushed me around when I went out for the first time to run some errands.
Support from great friends, Jonette and Serena.
Mary, helping again.
The nicest gift I have ever received. A matching game quilt on one side for Elle and Seb with a purple border, the color for cancer. Sent from my great great friend, Julia Murphy in Germany.
Ninon. Helping with baths and trains.
Visit from the Jenkins from North Carolina. Great to catch up.
Xandra and Livia, meeting Ivy.
Jayden, a student who came to meet Ivy.
Teresa, teaching me how to make THE BEST dinner I have ever eaten. She brought this pasta dish and watermelon (my favorite) over one night after the surgery.
Kyoung Kim, my two students' mother, dotes over Ivy like she's her own daughter. Ivy knows her and loves her back.
My first time downstairs in a long time. Things were surprisingly totally under control.
When we found out that we didn't have to use our savings for chemo treatments, we went right out and got Gabe a cello, something we've saved for for a long time. It's beautiful. This summer was a wake up call to us that we should spend our limited time and money on things that make us the happiest.

Our weekend trip to Solomon's Island right before the surgery.

Ivy, three weeks old.

Boat tour of the Bay.
The County Fair. NOTHING is as fun as the corn box.

And pig races.
Kensington Labor Day Parade.
My students parents offered us their summer lake house on Lake Winnipesaukee in NH (What About Bob? On Golden Pond). We had the nicest vacation of our life at Lake W. We came home trying to figure out how to sell our house and move there. It was the best place we've ever visited.
I want to move to Lake W. just for this grocery store. Every isle was lined with mums. Seemed like life at the lake was all-around this great.
Walking to the falls
Lunch overlooking Lake W.
Trolley ride to Castle in the Clouds
Castle in the Clouds. It has an organ in it that people could hear all over the lake.


The shower that women were too delicate for, so the sign said.
Had to stop and see Zeus


Elle liked practicing where Grace practices all summer long.
Candid shot. Seb got distracted after going to the bathroom.
Cold, but we spent most of our time in the water anyway.



Portsmouth. We had to see it since we read The Ox Cart Man a lot.
New Castle, NH. Elle loves the ocean. She wanted to collect shells all day.

Tour of a submarine in Portsmouth. We walked in it and Sebby immediately said, "Let's get out of here!"

We talked with the Polls in UT while we were at Lake W. They said their friends lived on the lake and said we had to go meet them. We met the Rudy's and Bob and Sherrie took us on the longest and best boat ride of our life around all of Lake W. They are great new friends.

Can you imagine?
Elle said she wanted to have a slide that goes into the lake. I can't think of anything better than that either.
Bear Island's post office. (An island in the middle of the lake)
Met Mitt Romney at church. He was nice enough to stop for a picture between sacrament meeting and Sunday School. Really tacky to ask for a photo during church (I know, I know) but I just had to do it.
The Waterford Fair in Virginia. A new Spencer family October weekend tradition. The best juried fair around. The booth owners were required to have one person selling their goods and one person demonstrating how they made their goods (demonstrations with no electricity required). Elle was sung to for ten whole minutes. She turned to me mid-song and said, "Can we go?" Everyone was standing around watching this guy sing a love song to her.








Larriland Farms fall festival.



Trip to Utah for Uncle Jake's wedding.

Ivy's first dip in a pool.

They were cold. Fell asleep hugging.
Elle waiting for Brittney to come out in her dress.
The three 2006 cousins
The two 2007 cousins
I know we're not supposed to have favorite's, but... Tanner is Sebby's favorite.
Nice, Noah. Do you see him?
Emily and Weston stopped in to say hello. Our friends of so many memories from Silver Spring, now living in UT.
The family picture didn't quite work out. Our kids were still on EST and it was 9:30 p.m. MST, and suffering from a whole night of picking at the candy table. Really fun, but that all equaled no cooperation.

Ivy meeting great grandma Shurtliff
Teaching us how to make her famous sopapillas
Sewing a little for Elle and Seb
Writing letters together
After two Thanksgiving meals
Playing with Savannah
Abby and Seb look more like siblings than cousins


With Franny
With Sofia
Watching a movie

Spencer family Thanksgiving. So good!
We love Ethan
Sofia's baptism
Cousins
Had to get a picture of the TSC board
Saying good-bye to Uncle Jake and Aunt Brittney
Eleanor was so sick after two Thanksgiving dinners. Mom rocked her to sleep and I missed being little and having her rock me to sleep. She said I used to fall asleep when she covered my ear with her hand. Guess it works for Elle, too.
Trip to Mooch's with Aunt DD
And Nikki

Visiting Kelly. Missed her so much since she moved.
The girls, two weeks apart. Ruthie and Ivy.
Visiting Mr. Frost and Dona.
Ivy meeting Sherrie
Dinner with Nat in Ogden
A fun late night coloring at Nat's house

Trip to Hershey PA. Thanks to Melanie for the tip about Hershey Pantry. She said to expect a long wait but said it was worth it. The best breakfast ever.

New Year's Eve at Hershey Park







The Hershey Factory
Kiss-shaped street lights on the main street: Chocolate Ave
Fell asleep after a few minutes after leaving Hershey Park. A little nap on the way to the hotel for a fun night of swimming.
Chocolate factory tour
Trolley ride through Hershey. THE most entertaining tour we've ever been on.
The actors

Visiting the Freemans at Doxeys, down from Maine


Singing Happy Birthday to Mary F with the Smiths. The kids think Mary is some sort of super star.

Moutaz and Shareen made me a birthday dinner
Impromptu birthday party with friends and home teachers

Ladies and kids night out to Cheeburger Cheeburger for shakes during the priesthood session
Trying out our new tent before going camping. Nice muscles.
Elders Quorum camping trip

This is one of my all-time favorite pictures. This is why I love Angela so much!
So happy camping


Kiersten Lortz's birthday dinner
My birthday dinner- thanks Mary
Trip with the Smiths to the Walters Art Gallery in Baltimore


Ping-pong competition between Seb and Kyoung
Our once-a-month Sunday night dinner with ward friends
Trying to get a smile out of Glen
Love the Doxeys!
Christmas Eve party with the Laumanns, our favorite New Orlean-ers
Dinner was a variety of gumbo, jambalaya, and other southern specialties
Bowlands- love them
New friend. Spent the whole night with her.
Christmas Day dinner at the McKays
Great picture of....Lynae? I took this home and put it in Gabe's shower to scare him in the morning. He didn't see it, and reached in and turned on the water for a while until it warmed up. An almost-really-great gag.
Rob TRYING to impress us with his magic tricks
Sunday night dinner with ward friends. Mary is the best.


Scott loves Ivy. This is what I look like most nights at 3:00 a.m.
Elder Goode said he was sick and had to lay down for a while. Seb kept feeding him anyway.
For sure the best trunk-or-treat costume we've ever seen. Usually Rob is Mr. Clean.
I dressed up as our ward Hopkins biologist, Dr. Alder. I found this get-up in our costume box and Gabe said, "Hey, you look like Jon." So, that's how it happened.
New friends, living our old grad school life in the Kensington Ward. The Castletons. Seth trying out Gabe's new cello.
I went to Mary's to watch a movie and we didn't realize it was a 4-hour series. I drove home at 2:00 a.m. (crazy). Mary was showing me what she was going to look like cleaning the church the next morning.
Pumpking carving with the neighborhood. Joe's 112 lb pumpkin from his farm in Ohio.
Playing for Elle Birch's wedding reception at the Huber Farm House.
More carving competition. Sarah won.
New friends, the Spiveys.
Baby shower for Tessa. Her dad surprised Tessa with a bat. He had carved every one of her boyfriend's names throughout her life (and the to and from dates they were together) onto this baseball bat. The last name on it is of course, Aaron's. He wants Tessa to pass it on to her baby girl.

Sunday night dinner with ward friends
Pictures of the kiddos

Dinner with Grandpa


Had to take a picture of Seb in this get-up




Elle practicing her pipe-builder flute Seb made for her



First day in primary
Seb still working on dressing himself
Ivy's blessing day



Watching Seb in soccer with UK Elite coaches. The coaches were naturals with the kids.


Date to see Yo Yo Ma at the Kennedy Center- this was a top 10 date for sure
On the phone for one minute and this happened
Elle's first recital

Second recital
Group recital
Elle said the best part of recitals is when Gabe gives her flowers afterwards. Gabe looked at me like, "Ahhhh! I didn't get her flowers!" So, we made a quick secret stop at the store before getting to the recital. I've never seen Eleanor so happy.

The Dejardins. Great friends from teaching their daughter during grad school.
Visit from Uncle Zach and Aunt Amber
Zach littered in front of the EPA building just to see if anything would happen.
Kids corner in the American History Museum
Michelle Obama's dress
Eleanor taking a picture of Eleanor
John said, "Hey Look! A dummy and a dummy!"
Apollo Ohno's skates
We had to tear Zach and Seb away from the Science Center


The White House
The Hope Diamond
Elle taking requests from Amber and Zach
Happy Birthday to Zach




Woodlawn Library- Storyville


The dock at Annapolis
Had to eat at Chick and Ruth's Deli
Merriweather drive-through lights
A local fire station's "Holiday Train Garden"
Christmas Eve at Savage Mill
Christmas morning
Gingerbread houses with Uncle Jay and Aunt Jan
Another great date. Met Joshua Bell after a concert. Even got his bow hair from the stage (insisted on getting it even though we were told to leave several times for clean-up). We missed his concert the week before due to the worst DC snow storm of the year. The lights were out at the concert hall that night but he performed in the lobby for a few hours for the handful of people that made it to the hall, under the emergency lights. So jealous. Glad we made it to the rescheduling.


Thanks for hanging on till the end. Hopefully we'll post sooner than 6 months next time!

5 comments:

mommaRx said...

miss you guys so much! Even more after seeing all the pictures :) It's been so so long since we were all newlyweds in the Ave's! The kid are adorable as ever and you guys look great too! So so so happy about the positive results from the melanoma- so relieved! We love you guys and hopefully we can see you in person sometime in the next year. We definitely need to come see you!

Cassidi said...

Love all the pictures. I am so glad that even far, far away from family you have been blessed with soooo many people to look after you. Kudos to Gabe. Work, school and being mom and dad is hard. We really miss you. Very happy to hear about the melanoma results. Puts things in perspective. You make me want to be a better friend and a better person. Love ya!

Dave and Mel said...

wow! how long did this post take? that was an amazing journey through your life and I am SO happy that things are good now and that your were so blessed with positive results and so many wonderful people around you. I'm glad you loved The Hershey Pantry too--made me want some stuffed french toast right now! Dave knows Jon Alder (from high school, I think). Funny. Well, Amber, you look beautiful in all these pictures and little Ivy is DARLING! So good to ''catch up" and thanks for sharing ALL those pics!

Raegan said...

It's good to see you are getting better. I am so amazed at all you guys are able to accomplish! You take my breath away, and make me really tired just looking at all your pictures! I miss you. I really am inspired by you Amber. You are on my list of AMAZING people.

Nicole said...

Thanks for the update! We miss you all. The kids were right here with me looking through all the wonderful memories. I am totally inspired by so much that you have done together as a family and the priceless insight on spending our limited time and money on things that make us happiest. There is so much to be thankful for and happy about.